Choice… That word is like the best and worst thing you can hear. “You have a choice” sounds great until the choice is between two or more seemingly great things or until you have a life decision to make and suddenly it’s like which one will be the best or even which will have the least worst effect.
Freedom of choice is an oxymoron because you are a prisoner to the process, you are chained by the decision and you have to do time with the consequences. The paradox of being a slave to the illusion of freedom.
So we kinda have a love hate relationship with the whole freedom of choice thing and yet we make choices everyday. Whether to get out of bed or lounge, to take coffee or tea, to listen or ignore, to workout or not, to become better, worse or stay the same. We choose daily and yet when it comes to life decisions we tend to get shy.
As a christian you have already made the most important choice of your life ; the choice to take up God’s offer of eternal life and to embrace His love for you. Yet each and everyday we have both small and large choices where God is saying “I put before you this day Life or death; choose life”. We have the power to choose life everyday. From the way we dress to how we speak to what we watch and listen to and even how we treat this body that is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
This blog post isn’t about the obviously bad decisions, this is about the good ones, the inconsequential ones, the ones that make sense, that are logical, scientifically proven and will help you on this earth. How do you make a biblical decision when it comes down to it? John Bevere has written a very good book entitled “Good or God?” and you should definitely purchase it as I found inspiration from it. But also the sermon called ‘Choose your chains’ by Pastor Steven Furtick of Elevation Church also played a role in this blog post.
When it comes to things like children, marriage, college courses, drinking, friends, stands on political issues, fashion and style trends,joining movements and things we identify with, how do we as Christians make biblically sound and morally correct decisions? For example, should you be a feminist? What about living with someone before the vows of marriage? Taking certain classes to ‘broaden your world view’? Is abortion ever ok? What exactly is modesty? Is drinking alcohol as a christian OK? How do you know someone is ‘the one’? Is there ever a time a christian can protest/riot? And so many more (p.s I will be writing blog posts that deliver deeper into each of these topics from next week Monday so be sure to subscribe and check the out 😊💕
Here are a few guidelines to help you:
1. Pray and listen to God’s answer:
So prayer, we talk and then say Amen and we move on and we hope that God will answer us, at least that is how it is most of the time. Do you ever stop and really listen? Are you asking God for direction or telling Him where you are going and hoping he helps you along the way? So when faced with a life decision like should I marry this guy or should I move to this place, pause and listen, really listen. I guarantee you that our God is not silent. He will speak; he will bring people/books/songs your way and he will confirm it with his word. He will open doors that you never even dreamed of or shut them so tightly that the only way you’ll go is through a window. He will use his creation as an analogy or a sermon. God speaks. So you have two great choices, well good. God is a God of clarity and He will clarify.
2. Check your reasons for being drawn to that topic/thing/view:
So sometimes why you are fascinated with wanting to know about other religions or abortion or sex is because you have let sin fester. You have been listening to sexual songs, watching series that glorify the ‘choice’ of a woman and down play the consequences of immorality, you have let doubt flood your soul. The bible tells us that we should be innocent of evil and be knowledgeable of all good. Meaning that you don’t really need to know how far is too far all you need to know is what God expects of you in terms of purity. You don’t have to know how many gods the Hindus have or how the Muslim worship all you need to know is how to shine a light in their life and how to love them like Jesus loves.
So check your heart; why are you even considering taking that course, why do you want to date that person, why are you fascinated with death etc.
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Psalm 139:23-24 NIV
3. Research deeply on the topic/thing:
This is in regards to ideologies, manifestos, movements, organizations and political stands. What is the history of feminism? Where and how did the political party start? Why was this organization first started? What was the intention of the founder? Some things seem good now but when you research how they started, you can realize that maybe you don’t need to follow that or be a part of it.
Then research around it currently because some things start well and deviate from God’s plan and His intentions. I mean we have seen christian celebrities back slide both quickly and gradually. So why should movements and organizations be any different?
4. Speak to someone more spiritually mature:
This list includes pastors, disciplers, parents, friends who have been christians for longer and are not facing the same decision. Talking it out with someone else tends to shine a light on some things we had not considered. Maybe you wanted to move to a certain place, and you have two seemingly great options but when you talk to someone else, they raise a few points you hadn’t considered like job security, actually security, geography, religious tensions etc. Other times, just hearing yourself out loud can really shed a light on either how silly it is or how much wisdom you’ve gained in the process of making their decision.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22 NIV
5. Remember that the bible is the final authority:
As a christian what the bible says cannot be questioned, changed or misinterpreted to suite your needs. The bibles has the final day. So if God says Children are a blessing and the man with many will never be put to shame then He means it. Whether a scientist says this or a doctor says that or you don’t have money or everyone is having dogs not kids or your career is this. If bible says be alert and sober minded, it means that. Not there are some plants which are not harmful to your health or it’s just once a week. If it says wives submit to your husbands and husbands love your wives, God ain’t playing. He doesn’t mean submission was for back then or you love her when she is pretty and slim or you kinda submit but only if he agrees with you. So when in doubt remember that God’s word is final, it will never change and it will remain forever relevant.
Hope these tips help you make a Godly decision in your life this week 😊. If you have any questions or comments post them in the comment section and if you want a certain topic covered again, post them in the comments. Like, subscribe and share this if it helped you.
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